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昨天，小喵在學校與同學打架，生氣故意弄壞同學的作品。

媽咪看到聯絡簿，趕緊問她是怎麼回事

「為什麼跟同學吵架?」

「沒有阿!她們自己要跟我玩打架!」「我一個打兩個ㄟ~」

四兩撥千斤地閃過重點，還創造一個媽咪應該會關心的新話題

「有跟人家道歉嗎?」

「兩個?是男生還是女生?」媽咪好像中計

「我有跟J和M say sorry，還有幫Joanna把作品弄好」

「後來J和M還是要跟我當好朋友阿!」小喵試著弄個happy ending的感覺

「是嗎? 妳如果愛生氣、會欺負小朋友，沒有人會跟妳交朋友，知道嗎?」

「我要跟老師說，如果Nicole不乖，請儘量處罰她，媽媽沒關係。知道嗎?」

「我知道了」乖巧的樣子

雖然心中存疑，媽咪還是被她ending掉了。還很認命地寫信去為她道歉。

三分鐘之後

「如果在學校不乖，老師會怎麼處罰小朋友?」媽咪問。說沒關係是騙人的。

「罰站阿!或是罵罵之類的阿!」小喵說

「常常有人被處罰嗎?」媽咪繼續追問

「沒有啦!很少啦!」「很不乖的才會」「像我上次爬到桌子上就是」

臉已經綠掉的媽咪，終於明白我們小喵就是"很少的"那一群。

我想起前兩天晚餐，小喵覺得弟弟占了她的位置，生氣地就丟飯匙

結果是被罰站與打屁股

最近很多類似的狀況，讓媽咪感到很頭痛

我記得Cindy以前也出現過類似狀況，讓我對她的人際關係很擔心。不過，小一之後就大幅改善。

小喵現在是否也正遭逢相同困擾? 是過渡期嗎?媽咪的態度?

很多人會覺得我是個太寵孩子的媽，又有很多人建議我不要打罵孩子(身教重於言教)

但我真的要說句心裡話，這兩者很難同時辦到阿!

每個孩子的狀況不同

(其實我真的要說的是，每對父母的遺傳基因不同，爸比的火爆，媽咪的壞脾氣，小孩會怎樣勒?)

(什麼?大聲一點!你覺得媽咪是智慧美麗溫柔婉約型喔?...恩..很好...我完全承認阿...!"呵呵)

妞只是聲勢驚人，頗有乃父雷聲大雨點小之風。

小喵卻是藝高膽大型，槍林彈雨沒在怕，進退之間的拿捏超過媽咪想像的厲害。

我只能說，千萬，千萬，這個孩子要好好教，不能學壞。

TES的老師對孩子有深刻的觀察

這學期的評語如下(如此的細膩與落落長， 媽咪typing的好累阿!)

「Nicole has a strong character」，這句話媽咪覺得形容的很貼切

對她五育發展都提出了看法與有效的建議，看起來很用心阿!(感人ㄟ)

針對缺點，也會讓人覺得學校努力幫助孩子改善，而不是排斥或打擊孩子的信心。

這點，真的讓我非常感謝。

Nicole 2011 Jun

Teacher's general comments:

Nicole is a fun girl who has settled into the Nursery well. She has grasped the daily routines and knows what to do and when to do it. Nicole has a good attitude towards learning and is very motivated to do well, such that she will require a lower level of EAL support to help her access the Reception curriculum securely. Nicole has a strong character and this can sometimes become challenging in her relationships with her peers. Initially, Nicole required encouragement to accept this but she has recently shown that she is opening up to the suggestions of others and will try to adjust some of her social behavior within her peer relationships. Nicole will benefit by relaxing her attitude and using a gentle demeanor when interacting with others. Occasionally, Nicole still requires some reminders to keep her hands to herself, mainly with food items. Overall, a productive time for Nicole who will do well in Reception. Keep up the good work Nicole!

Head Teacher's comments:

Nicole has natural ability, and even though she only has a little English ,the natural ability has enabled her to make good progress in all six areas of learning. Well done Nicole!

About Personal, social and emotional development

Nicole started the Nursery in January and settled in smoothly and quickly. She was able to follow the routines and structure of the Nursery. She can self-initiate learning and will concentrate on teacher-led activities. Nicole can stand up for herself however she must be careful to keep an open attitude and learn to forgive and forget about minor incidents which can affect her moods. Occasionally Nicole needs reminders to keep her hands to herself and although she can approach friendships, she now needs to work on maintaining these. Future target : Nicole should work on developing her awareness of the needs, views and feelings of others as this will help her foster positive relationships with her peers.

About communication, language and literacy

Nicole has worked hard with her English language and this has produced good progress. She can communicate her needs in simple words and sentences in informal contexts and with some EAL support in Reception, this will help her achieve the academic language required to access the Reception curriculum. She enjoys listening to stories and has shown a growing awareness to letters and sounds. Nicole makes good attempts to respond to questions. She is beginning to read the pictures of a simple book. Nicole can write her name independently. Future target : To work on her awareness of rhyme by listening carefully to the rhyming words.

About problem solving, reasoning and numeracy

Nicole has good math ability and can count to 10 and sometimes beyond. She has clear 1-1 correspondence when counting objects and can recognize the numbers to 10. Nicole could compare quantities using the language for "more than" and "less than". Nicole could complete a repeating pattern using colors and shapes and sort objects according to similar size or colour properties. She could recognize some simple 2D shapes and as her numeracy vocabulary grows, so will her understanding and grasp of the mathematical concepts. Future target: To recognize the different 2D shapes.

About knowledge and understanding of the world

Nicole is curious about her environment and will explore the different activities prepared in this area although she must wait for instructions to understand how to utilize the activities. She observed with interest, the changes that took place for different foods. She participated in all our cultural celebrations displaying a developing understanding of customs and languages different to her own. Nicole likes using the computers and her ICT skills are developing steadily. She can use the mouse with increasing control and complete simple programs with minimal support.

About physical development

Nicole enjoys physical activities and can move with coordination and balance appropriate for her age. She can run freely, pedal tricycles and climb outdoor equipment well. Nicole was able to negotiate her own space when playing games which required running, chasing, finding a space and dodging. She could shared a toy and untie it too. Nicole is working on her pencil grip as she has a tendency to use grab grip and needs adjustment to grip the pencil appropriately. With initial support to grip her scissors, she can then cut along a line.

About creative development

Nicole enjoys creative activities and will paint and draw regularly. she has played with the play dough and created some fun objects. Nicole is a frequent visitor of the junk modeling table and has a clear vision of what she wants to make. Nicole can join in with others when engaging in representational play but must be careful to keep to her own role. She is enthusiastic in music lessons and can remember songs from memory and has worked hard practicing for our end of year show.